Why this obsession to be good enough for other people? To be seen as 'acceptable' even if it’s not the YOU of you? One of my earliest memories is of my grandmother saying 'good girls don't do that' and ‘what will people think?’ and those two statements became a recurring theme throughout all my growing … Continue reading Just Exhale
Love YOU
Everywhere I scroll on social media, on every other page I turn in a magazine, people are suggesting that I practice self love. But I realised that I don't actually know what that means. I can't suddenly start loving myself! Can I? Surely there's far too much baggage there for that (and it's heavy ya'll!)! … Continue reading Love YOU
Breaking out of the box
Last week I heard an acronym I have never heard before... BAME ... mentioned during the launch of a diversity and inclusion study completed recently. I found out that it stands for 'Blacks, Asians and Minority Ethnics'. Great, yet another set of criteria that I need to find my place in. 🙄 And by the … Continue reading Breaking out of the box
On Being Kind
'In a world where you can be anything, be kind.' When a news article was written about me in the local paper in 2016, I railed against the adjective 'kind' being used to describe me. It seemed such a soppy word, soft and spineless and without substance. I wanted to be called independent, friendly, funny, … Continue reading On Being Kind
Share your brilliance
'I will not make myself small to be more palatable.' I read this quote recently and it made me want to live my one little life as magnificently and as brilliantly as I was intended to. Enough with putting myself down and the self deprecating jokes. Here I am. #thisisme With all my faults and … Continue reading Share your brilliance
Only Love
Today I don't want to hear about your petty annoyances. I don't want to hear your small minded musings of another's failings. I don't want to hear how someone made you angry. Because yesterday we saw what misguided anger towards another can result in. Death and the breakdown of a peaceful community. And whether it's … Continue reading Only Love
Being Seen
A few weeks ago I was lamenting to my coffee date that I missed being inconspicuous and as unknown as I had felt when we'd been traveling overseas, and also during the few months I worked in Harvey. Straight after the words left my mouth there seemed to be a parade of people that I … Continue reading Being Seen
Wasting Time
It has been exactly 8 months to the week when I finished my last paid job. And looking back there is the human tendency for me to think it was wasted time. But the idea of 'wasting time' has got to be a construct of busy, stressed people, surely. There will always be an endless … Continue reading Wasting Time
Mother of Sons
A special love exists between mothers and their sons. When we had our two boys and we decided that two kids was enough, I had a number of women make me feel like I was missing out by not having a daughter. But what they don't know is the secret that us mothers with just … Continue reading Mother of Sons
Just begin
As we hurtle towards the end of the year I know that there are areas in my life that I totally neglected this year. Goals and plans that remain non-starters or incomplete. I realised that there had been no conviction and no intent behind these goals. We were away for 3 weeks when 2017 ticked … Continue reading Just begin
